Why the Body Positivity Movement Isn't That Positive
Women's search for self-esteem and dignity has been a long one all across the globe. Movements rise and fall, different cultural standards fall into place, and different impacts shake the ground beneath women's feet. At the turn of the centuries, Feminism has heeded to the call of women who desire suffrage, support, security, and sympathy. It was an admirable movement and in many countries it still is. But like with every good thing, there are some that will take its name in vain. The last few years in America have seen a distortion in the feminist movement. It seems that the repertoire once gained by true leaders has been taken and distorted by a new generation of social media soldiers.
Of course, there are so many admirable people in this generation and I am not completely absent of faith in them. I am not without my own faults and I do not expect every social revolution to be so either, but I feel that it's time I addressed one of the pressing movements that I see headlining social media every day. It wasn't until I really started doing research into this campaign that I realized just how much it is failing women.
This article will be discussing the Body Positivity and Fat-Acceptance Movements as a whole. I do recognize that there are parts of these communities that do not falter in the ways that I will describe. I am expressing my opinion on the subject as someone who does care about body image, self-assurance, and the right that everyone has to feel comfortable in their own skin. While the body positivity movement should be producing impressive results, I have done extensive research into why it will inevitably fail many women today. Here are 13 reasons why:
1. It's Not That All-Inclusive
When you look at pages that focus on body positivity or the communities that promote it, they seem to feature one specific group of people more than anyone: Overweight and/or obese white women.
Now, this isn't to say that there's not any representation of other people. However, these women do appear to be the forefront of the movement. But why? Demographics lend some insight to this as over 60% of the country is Caucasian and 2 out of every 3 women is either overweight or obese. But that still makes it strange that a movement lead by feminists trying to represent women of all backgrounds (and even fighting for the ability to be the voice of women of color) would not feature more Asian, Latino, and African-American females in their communities. Although more and more African-American women are joining the campaign, women of other races still seem scarce.
Among my time in these forums and pages that follow the creed of body positivity I noticed that the overweight, able-bodied white female reigned over all. Whenever a new professional plus size model of this criteria hits the scene my social media pages are literally flooded with her image. Minorities exist more frequently when the movement is being represented commercially, but within the communities themselves these women are not represented--and sometimes not valued--the same as the other members. But the exclusion of multi-cultural women is only the beginning of what makes this "open-minded" club not so diverse.
The other large group of people whom the movement seems to ignored is the disabled. The body positivity movement is no place for veterans missing limbs, sufferers of scoliosis, or those with vitiligo or other skin conditions. It's not for the deformed faces of those who have suffered horrible incidents, those with Down's Syndrome, the elderly, or the bodies of those recovering from anorexia or bulimia. Women who have lost a breast (or both) to cancer may find some solace in the community because of the importance of the breast that many feminists emphasize. Though it is still offensive to say that because they lost a breast and not an eye or a limb that they are more worthy of attention.
The body positivity movement gives prestige to those people who, while flawed, are still a certain level of attractive in one way or another.
Your body may have stretch marks and rolls but if you've got a decent face and take nice photos, you're pretty much golden. Being overweight "sells" nowadays. Being crippled doesn't. It's an insult to those who the movement claims to care about, when in reality their "representation" comes from fringe groups or isolated websites. At times it even seems that some of their biggest supporters--the LGBTQ Community--have a hard time finding widespread exposure, let alone fame and glory. As a whole, the body positivity movement has a limited scope of representation.
2. It Encourages The Sexualization of Young Girls
How do you be body positive? It depends on who you ask. If you were to ask a psychologist, they might recommend you to methods of cognitive behavioral therapy, grounding techniques, and the construction of positive emotional support from family and friends. If you were to ask someone from a body positivity group, they'd probably tell you to post a selfie. There's an unspoken guide to residing in the body positivity community and it involves a lot of superficial proceedings. These pages are wrought with mirror selfies of girls in their underwear and the cavalcade of compliments underneath. The most disturbing part about this, however, is that it's engaging underage girls in this ritual as well.
Because the movement is centralized on young women, you can very easily find girls under the age of 16 who openly post suggestive photos of themselves on these public forums for all to see.
I'm not just talking about a girl showing off her swimsuit either. I'm talking about the sexually charged self-portraiture that the movement seems to encourage the most. The idea is that to be sexy is the ultimate form of confidence. For a lot of people that is true and it's not wrongful for them to find comfort in their sexuality. But it is dangerous for girls of younger ages to be posting photos of themselves nude or in lingerie, bending into sensual poses and expressing their sexual values (ex. kinks/fetishes) on public forums. The sexuality isn't the primary issue, it's the time and place of its expression. I could go into any of these groups where girls, mostly 13-16, are being bombarded with comments from grown men who find them attractive.
Some of these men find them invigorating because of the fact that they look like fully developed women and express themselves as such. The rest of these men, however, take an interest in these young girls specifically because they are underage.
Any of these people can send lewd messages and photos to these girls in just a few clicks. They can offer a compliment to incite the girl to accept a friend or follow request, at which point they have access to almost everything they'd need to know about her. They can find out where she's been, what school she goes to, who she knows, where she hangs out at. I don't mean to sound like a bad parental awareness commercial but it's a real, proven danger to young boys and girls everywhere. I've sadly been witness to the kind of exploitation that can occur to teenage girls and it's an unfortunately common problem.
People also don't realize the legal complications that can occur when communities like these arise where girls who are mostly under 18 end up as "Facebook Famous" or "Tumblr Famous" internet celebrities. In many states you can be charged with the possession or distribution of child pornography for racy selfies, especially those posted online. Over the years one could point to several young "Facebook Famous" girls who were known for their nude photos or even footage of them performing sex acts. Any person could anonymously report them to authorities for this behavior, at which point the laws of the state can decide what happens to them. Even if there are no legal consequences, the long-term implications of posting these kinds of photos online are often ignored by these girls for the sake of their status in the body positive community.
Again, the problem isn't with young women being inherently sexual. It's the fact that the body positivity movement teaches them that, despite the battle to not be seen as "sex objects", their highest value is in their physical, sexual appearance. To be "sexy" is the greatest achievement you can muster no matter how much you weigh or how many flaws you have, as long as you have an audience for it. This is a by-product of not just the body positivity movement but of the millennial-heavy new age of feminism. It easily becomes addicting to a young insecure girl who, in just a few good photos, can be caught up in a flurry of compliments, followers, and attention.
Moreover, it has been suggested that women viewing commercials that include average-sized models might experience greater self-awareness of their own bodies due to the explicit focus on “real” women, triggering a fear of fatness. Also, these women may still be reminded of the thin beauty ideal even when viewing average-sized models, heightening their general awareness of beauty ideals (Anschutz, Engels, Becker, & van Strien, 2009).— Angela Celebre, Ashley Denton|"The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of the Dove Campaign for Real Beauty"
3. It Contributes to More Insecurity
You might argue that I'm saying being sexy is bad. It's not. The problem is that the body positivity movement—in most circles—only teaches one method of finding confidence: Being sexy. It's certainly a confidence booster and that's been the case for centuries. Even I do admire many women who are sexual icons. But to narrow people's insecurities down to something that relies purely on superficial representation on social media is insulting to the depth of our human confidence. It's no wonder that these girls still suffer, often vocally, with their insecurities every day despite the growing number of "fans" they receive or photos they post garnering upwards of 300 "likes".
The body positivity movement teaches you how to market yourself through social media, how to blur the line between confidence and narcissism, and how to base your entire self-esteem on what a group of strangers think. The body positivity movement does not teach you how to work proactively on your emotional distresses, find value in your appearance when a crowd isn't watching, seek emotional support through people who are truly present in your life, or how to not leave the fate of your self-esteem up to social media.
This movement is obsessed with image, which inevitably leads to insecurities about image. Once you've gained a following you're checking over your photos time after time again and seeing who's liking and commenting on your things and at what volume. Living through social media makes us forget what it's really like to live. It's like being invited out to dinner with your friends but not going because your face broke out and there's no way to really cover it up. It's like sitting at the edge of the pool while everyone else has fun because you're worried about people seeing you in your swimsuit. It's like going on a roller coaster at a theme park and having your day ruined because the wind messed up your hair. Instead of reveling in the experiences life can bring, you find yourself hinged on the question of: "What do those people on the internet think of me?". What's the point of being a sensation online if you're still insecure and apprehensive in real life? What true benefit does that do for you?
4. It Believes Plus-Size Models Are More "Realistic"
Carolyn Coker Ross, MD, is a physician, author, and speaker on eating disorders, obesity, and addiction. In one of her articles titled Why Do Women Hate Their Bodies? she states:
"Today, the media is a far more powerful influence than ever before, sometimes taking precedence over friends, family or other real women. Whereas women used to look at role models who were average-sized, women are now comparing themselves with images (some of which are merely computerized conglomerations of body parts) that are unrealistically thin. In the old days, a young girl grew up wanting to look like her mother or best friend. Now she wants to look like Angelina Jolie.
Herein lies the real damage. The more an individual is exposed to the media, the more he or she believes it is reflective of the real world. What most people still don’t realize is that the majority of the pictures they see in magazines are altered in some way and that looking like their role models is physically impossible. It is a setup for self-hatred."
The context of the article involves discussions on how young girls from age 7 and up react to frequent exposure to thin icons from actresses to toy dolls. But the idea of how media negatively influences a girl's self esteem carries over to the fat-acceptance and body positivity movements.
Every model who has her photo posted commercially, whether she's 100 pounds or 300 pounds, goes through post-processing. It's a part of marketing and isn't often done with malicious intent, however many people don't know how to handle the visual information they're receiving. Those in the body positivity movement would say that plus size models have a great advantage over thin models in the community because they're of a more relatable size, thus making their image "less damaging" than that of a thin model. But the only thing that makes them any different from a thin model is the fact that they're overweight. They still had to sit in a makeup chair for hours, they still had their waists cinched, their bosom enhanced, and their skin completely airbrushed of every flaw. Despite the fact that they have more fat on their bodies, the desired shape is still the same: Hourglass. They are just as "unrealistic" as they claim thinner models to be. People take this idea at face value and live by it without realizing how harmful it is.
Even amongst the communities themselves, you'd be hard-pressed to find photos without filters or careful lighting and angles. These communities teach you to live through the veil, to engage in all of your emotional healing through the cookie-cutter compliments of strangers online and the soft filter of your front-racing camera. This doesn't exclude you from feeling insecure. It's easy to compare yourself to other girls who may be getting more attention than you, or the one or two people who said something rude on one of your pages. Sure, you may feature your flaws up close and personal but the reigning success is found in semi-professional makeup-saturated selfies. It is all a setup for disappointment.
5. It Makes People Vulnerable
Living out your identity on the internet invites more opportunity to be faced with negative attention. While many seek solace online because of the negativity they face at home, many more don't even consider that their participation in these groups can be more harmful than good. I would support anyone interacting with people (online or off) who encourage positive attitudes. I personally understand what it's like to have some of your close friends reside on the other side of a screen. But when you're dealing with such a sensitive subject like body positivity in public forums, it could be a recipe for disaster. People on the internet can be cruel, and you may find that your posts are taken and made a mockery of. You could receive negative backlash for upsetting the wrong person or revealing your age (if underage). Girls in body positivity groups can easily gain thousands of followers in just a few days. As quickly as people are ready to support them, they are ready to tear them down as well.
Of course it's possible to find honest friends on the internet, people you can actually count on. But these communities that spread like wildfire only gain the attention of more and more people who have little to no supportive value. It turns from a tight-knit group of friends with good intentions to a spectator sport of insecurity.
The body positivity movement makes you feel personally victimized or vulnerable, even if you've never experienced the level of oppression some claim to exist. Everyone has been bullied for something and everyone has their reasons to feel insecure. The community will take even the most extreme cases of maltreatment and apply it to your life. They circulate experiences not just as individual occurrences but as inevitable consequences of anyone who is overweight/disproportionate/flawed in any way.
"I finally asked that boy out in my class and he turned me down. He probably doesn't like fat girls."
"My favorite store didn't have that dress in plus size so I tried on a smaller one. I could hear some girls laughing at me."
"This girl at work just got the promotion I've been trying at for months. It's probably because she looks like a model."
"My boyfriend started liking this other girl's pictures and she's way prettier than me. I'm so hurt, I should have known."
These complaints turn into full on headline articles of discontent to be spread among the masses, scaring them into believing that it could happen to them too. Some even believe that they are systematically oppressed for their weight, vaguely equating it to the racism faced by certain people. Being in these communities makes you sensitive and not in a good way. It makes you sensitive in the way that you're expecting the worst to happen to you because of your appearance. You subconsciously start pruning through your daily life for instances of "oppression". You assume anyone with a slight stare is judging your appearance negatively, or that anyone who turns you down does so because of how you look, or that an employer snuffed you for your weight. You're taught to believe that you should be empowered by your appearance but also fearful of it as well. Again, this leads to real-life anxiety about online experiences.
6. It Ignores Men's Issues
Whether those devout followers of the body positivity movement want to admit it or not, their movement is not about including men. While some of their mantras seem to revolve around men they are not often inclusive of them. They may say that they sympathize with the body image problems that men face but the truth is that their movement does not reflect this. Transsexual men seem to (sometimes) be the exception while other men are at a loss. The depreciation of men's bodies and emotional relationship to their bodies has been a problem way before the movement gained popularity on social media. A study conducted of 394 men at The University of the West of England found that 80.7% of those men expressed anxiety in relation to their personal appearance and that they found significant flaws in their image. Similarly, 75% of women in the study expressed the same ideas. Researchers also found that, not surprisingly, men were severely less likely to talk about their body dysphoria than women.
The coddling of females in regards to their body image begins at a young age and stems from the idea that they are fragile and must be protected. Alternatively, boys are raised to be less fragile, less emotionally outgoing, and all-in-all more contrasting to girls based on the notion that certain characteristics are exclusive to one gender or another. Studies done in classrooms all across The United States and Canada have shown a power struggle between the proficiency of boys and girls. For those traits that young girls are praised for (soft-spoken, sensitive, neat, and obedient), boys are separated from through biased education or lessons from home. The same goes for body image.
Girls are more directly taught to value their physical appearance, while boys are taught this subconsciously without any indication as to why and how they should find appearance important. Nearly every aspect of a girl's life is attributed to body image, from the dolls she plays with to the makeup and diet commercials she views every day. She is taught to be hypersensitive to matters involving body image by her mother, her friends, and her teachers. Other boys see this type of social structure and mistakenly believe that body image is a "woman's issue" only. Boys who do not receive appropriate emotional training and exemplification, not only in regards to body image but to other aspects in life, are left empty-handed when faced with their own insecurities. Girls are offered help with their self-esteem at every corner and are praised for expressing their insecurities to others. Boys? Boys aren't so lucky.
How often did I see overweight or obese men in those body positivity pages I observed? None. Not any. I actually had to specifically search for "men's body positivity" to find separate pages for which they could find representation, and even then it was on a small scale. In a matter I'll save for another argument, many of the women for these body positivity groups not only ignored the representation of men but actually objectified them. Between the glamour shots of plus size models, the feminist pseudo-news articles, and the scantily-clad selfies of followers, were sexist Buzzfeed articles or images of hunky men followed by sexually-explicit comments. The women of the body positivity movement seem obsessed with what men think of them but not with what men think of themselves.
7. It Undermines and Insults Thin Women
The movement loves to circulate those articles featuring Disney Princesses with "realistic waistlines" or fake quotes by Marilyn Monroe (who, in actuality, spent most of her life with a 22" waist at 115 pounds) or images criticizing Victoria's Secret models. These forms of propaganda don't push the idea of "acceptance" as they would like to believe. In the community, to criticize the image of the "unrealistically" thin woman is to encourage bigger girls to not feel so bad. Not only is this an insult to intelligent women who don't need to see a thin woman degraded to feel better about herself, but it's an overall spit in the face to girls who are actually those "unrealistic" proportions.
I almost never see girls with thigh gaps in these groups, or girls with their ribs showing or a faint six pack on their abdomen. Women who are born very thin or work to be very thin simply don't exist in the community. On some other side of the internet, recovering anorexia and bulimia patients or pro-anorexia sufferers can find almost no consolation in the so-called "body positivity" movement despite its large voice and heavy following. They are left with the extreme "pro-ana" community that is shunned by everyone else for their (albeit harmful) values. It seems that the only basis for the fat-acceptance movement is the degradation of thin women in one way or another. They suggest that their mere existence is harmful to the fragile self-esteem of those who can't even look at a Barbie doll without feeling inadequate.
To say that being thin, at any degree, is "unrealistic" is invalidating women all over the world for their natural build. I've seen girls who eat almost twice their weight in food and still hover around 100 pounds because of their metabolism. I've seen girls express their frustrations at the inability to gain weight in a society where "thick" girls are the new trend. I've seen girls receiving comments insulting their weight when they dared to show what they looked like beneath baggy sweaters and jeans. I've seen women's hard-earned achievements reduced because they apparently had "thin privilege". I've seen skinny shaming propaganda being spread on social media like wildfire, including images showing fake "facts" stating that women with thigh gaps have "loose vaginas" or that they're more infertile and therefore less desirable to men. The movement teaches women, in one way or another, to treat thin girls as a threat. Any benefits a girl reaps while being thin is scoffed at, because it's assumed to be because of her weight.
Thin women can suffer from the same kind of discrimination and shaming that larger women do in the public, in the workplace, and even at home. Thinness can often be falsely attributed to drug use or malnutrition. A skinnier girl may not be given the same job opportunities during employment because she's perceived to be weak or frail. These women are approached under the assumption that they find superiority in their figure. These women have stigmas attached to them just like any other person can. They are not immune to being turned down by people or being told that they're not physically or sexually appealing.To say that to be skinny is to always be ahead in society is simply false. All women of all sizes will face some sort of discrimination and/or degradation at some point. Our issue should be with why someone would spread any message of hatred towards anybody.
Being "accepting" or "admiring" of skinny girls seems to come with an air of effort. When you admit that you don't inherently hate skinny girls you're met with either a "Why?" or a standing ovation, because the fact that girls with small waists doesn't bother you is somehow baffling. I've seen certain models get verbally attacked because they dared to lose weight. Plus size models can exercise and eat healthy all they want and it's a gleaming achievement, but the moment they stop being "plus size" they've lost their credibility in the community. This brings me to the next level of thin degradation:
8. It's Obsessed With Fictional Women
Why is the slander of the thin female image such an integral part of their campaign? I do believe that these images have an emotional impact on people, but the instances of depression or even suicidal ideation due to not being able to "live up" to an imaginary standard is at the hands of the observer, not the observed. This isn't to say that certain weak tendencies are all completely controllable by said observer. However, this goes back to the harboring of insecurity that the body positivity movement is often so good at. When people in the community have a popular blogger telling them that they should feel insecure about something, they will often follow suit without question. It makes you wonder as to how often they really thought about that issue to begin with. In my day to day life I must admit I don't think about Cinderella's waist size or what that has to do with me. But if I was part of a body positive community who posted adamantly about the issue, I might start to think: Wow, this upsets everyone else so it must upset me too! I'm sure that the majority of the hundreds of thousands of little girls that dressed as Elsa (from Frozen) for Halloween didn't think twice about their decision because they didn't have a 12" waist. It's adults who make an issue out of the way imaginary characters look and we all know how children like to follow whatever their parents are saying.
Why is it that they nitpick so ferociously at skinny fictional female characters? It's a cartoon, a character drawn by someone (God forbid it was a man that created her because then another issue arises). If a children's toy or a video game character fractures someone's self esteem that badly, I don't feel like they're well-equipped enough to be on the internet. They don't point fingers at the muscular male heroes of Marvel or DC but it's a national disaster when a female character has a small waist and big breasts. Even though the sexiness of the hourglass figure is promoted by the community, they damn it's representation in illustrated form only because the characters are skinny.
The main issue is that they claim these figures aren't "realistic". Well, of course they're not; They're illustrations. To expect elements of obvious fiction or fantasy to be more "realistic" is to be deranged. Despite this, in the cosplay community you can often find girls that have almost exactly the same proportions or shape as the "unrealistic" characters that they are portraying.
9. It Teaches Narcissism
A person's beginnings in the body positive community are tame. They post a few photos of themselves and include their story and are met with freshly-prepared batches of compliments and encouragement. After awhile they'll gain more followers and support, at which point they'll start adopting more and more narcissistic tendencies.
Taking and posting a lot of photos isn't direct evidence as to how self-absorbed or "stuck up" someone is or isn't. In the end it's your attitude that tells you how egotistical you are. Apparently, the body positivity movement treasures those who have an "I'm better than you" approach to life. Once a girl reaches internet "stardom" she is encouraged to put down her opposites in order to get ahead. Overweight and obese models who claim to be more "real" than Victoria's Secret models or who shut down naysayers by calling them "jealous" or "unappealing" are generally great heroes of the movement. I've seen a lot of subliminal encouragement from the community for people to talk down on others in order to feel better about themselves.
The members of these movements as well as the leaders all showcase traits similar to those who have narcissistic personalities. In regards to the studies of Alfred Adler, a psychoanalyst, Professor Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph. D., writes:
"People who feel inferior go about their days overcompensating through what he called “striving for superiority.” The only way these inwardly uncertain people can feel happy is by making others decidedly unhappy. To Adler, this striving for superiority lies at the core of neurosis.
We now think of this striving for superiority as a feature of narcissistic personality disorder, that deviation in normal development that results in a person’s constant search to boost self-esteem. The two kinds of narcissists are the grandiose (who feel super-entitled) and the vulnerable (who, underneath the bravado, feel weak and helpless). Some may argue that at their core, both types of narcissists have a weak sense of self-esteem, but the grandiose narcissist may just be better at the cover-up. In either case, when you’re dealing with someone who’s making you feel inferior, there’s a good chance that narcissism is the culprit."
10. It Teaches You to Be Shallow
Shallowness in a person can be defined as someone who only places importance in physical appearance or as someone who has little emotional and/or intellectual depth. Many of these communities don't even realize that they are promoting both of these features. It's very easy to forget what makes a person truly secure in who they are when you're scrolling through the waves of plus-size selfies that equal social media gold. I won't lie to anyone and say that looks don't matter at all--they do. Appearance is very important to us, but there needs to be a balance between loving and celebrating what's on the outside just as much as there is loving and celebrating what's on the inside.
The body positivity movement likes to say that they aren't defined by a scale or a measurement. More often than not the members still round up the sum of their identity to what size they are. For example, one might say that being a size 14 doesn't define them. But when it comes to jumping on the campaign's bandwagon then they seek to relate everything to their size. This dialogue can be something like "I'm a plus-size blogger/dancer/model/etc." with their size being the central focus of their presence. In most cases this is likely not done on purpose, though it can be if one was seeking more traffic or attention online.
With a society already obsessed with image, the body positivity movement only shows an alternative obsession. We should encourage people who are inspiring through their actions, their talents, their behavior, and their methods of self-care. Though the campaign claims to be all about the idea that women are more than what they look like, they seem to do a poor job of showing it outside of trendy quotes and memes.
This all goes back to the idea that security in your appearance relies solely on the way you look--something that couldn't be farther from the truth. It's why many female icons of today continually go through several phases of plastic surgery even if they've attained an "ideal" as perceived by the public and their fans. Many of these women express that they still continue to feel insecure, no matter what level of beauty they apparently have. This is because if you're unhappy with yourself as a person then improvements to your appearance can only take your self-esteem so far. The body positivity movement ignores the major element of your self-esteem that comes from your psychological framework instead of your physical perception. They trade these true methods of cognitive healing in exchange for God complexes and the empty admiration of strangers.
11. It Neglects Healthy Practices
Study after study has shown that being overweight and obese comes with obvious health complications. While it's not always a direct indication of someone's health, there are so many factors that play into how the human body functions it would be hard to call someone absolutely healthy when they're in a high BMI range. I, for example, have a BMI of 32 yet have perfect levels of cholesterol and low blood pressure. However, I am very easily fatigued, I have low amounts of strength, I've got a higher percentage of body fat, and I often get joint and muscle pains. The last time I dieted and went jogging regularly I noticed a night and day difference in all of those things. Pursuing healthy lifestyles isn't just a gimmick sold by the media—it actually makes a huge difference in nearly every part of your biological functioning.
I have often seen members of the community actually demean fitness programs and doctor recommendations under the notion that these things are attacking their image. They will sometimes claim that doctors, nutritionists, and fitness instructors all have a personal vendetta against fat people and that they don't want them to find representation because they hate them. You can find stories of "martyrs" in the body positivity movement who retaliated against doctors and nurses who dared to suggest that they lose weight for the sake of their health. The same reason why doctors ask for your biological gender before they treat you is the same reason why they ask for your weight: Because they need to know what's going on inside of you so they can help you. A frequent athlete may not have knee pain for the same reason that an obese person does (and vice versa). These aren't personal attacks and they aren't trying to embarrass you. I highly doubt that most people who went to over eight years of college want to talk about your weight for the sole purpose of shaming you. These people know more about health than anyone and for angry teenage girls to insult their practice for the sake of their fragile self-esteem only makes their operation look even less reasonable than it already does.
The body positivity and fat-acceptance movement seems to only deal in physical sizes. There are some in the community that do engage in healthy practices and there are some who---due to rare diseases or genetics---have trouble losing weight. But in most of the community the process of losing weight only points to one result: Being skinny. They throw out the overall proven health benefits of shedding fat off of your body in lieu of the frightening notion that they could possibly be the very image that acts as a threat to them. To be at a healthy weight isn't "perpetuating stereotypes" or "abandoning values", it's honestly doing your body one of the greatest favors you possibly could. Again, this goes back to the obsession with external image. They forget who the person is, what they act like, or what values they hold. If you want to lose weight you're accused of "falling for the trap" set by the media. It's as if leaving their exclusive club of social media justice warriors makes you worthless to their cause, the cause that cries out about acceptance and equal opportunities as long as you're one of them. Losing weight would lose your status in the community. If any of their obese heroes had gastric bypass surgery and shrank down to below 200 pounds, would they hail them the same? Would the woman's loyalty to their fans, their uplifting attitudes, or their overall good personhood matter at that point? I find it hard to believe that it would.
With the epidemic of obesity in both our children and adults in America, we need to realize that you can love your body and take care of it at the same time. I want people to love themselves in the process of living healthy. If you gain weight it's not the end of the world. One doesn't don't have to throw themselves into these shallow communities to take on ineffective values in lieu of actually helping themselves physiologically and psychologically. The obesity epidemic in this country hurts our education, our economy, and our development in what used to be an admirable place to live. These new wave movements seek to bury these things in the ground for the sake of feeling privileged.
12. It Encourages Entitlement
The body positivity movement is less concerned with personal development and more concerned with the world conforming around the deficiencies of others. They want to see more "fat representation" and tell bogus stories of "thin privilege" to scare its followers into thinking that they are personally victimized all the time. They petition against stores for not providing extreme plus sizes when many clothing stores have actually become increasingly accommodating to plus sizes in the past five years. They often seem to want things completely replaced with more "fat-friendly" visuals. Clothing store mannequins, billboards, magazine covers, etc. Again, it all goes back to them ignoring the true origin of self-esteem issues. When you work on your thought processes you no longer see skinny mannequins or thin models as a threat the way that the body positivity movement would have you believe. The community will look for any reason to claim that they've been victimized or triggered.
Another aspect of this new movement is the way that they handle their personal endeavors. The members of these communities feel that they are entitled to the attention and attraction of every man they come across. When men turn down these women for any reason, it's automatically assumed it's because they were overweight or flawed physically in some other way. I have seen men on social media who express their preferences in women or even compliment a woman who is thin and be completely trashed by those who follow the movement. These same women who drool explicitly over male models on their own pages will not stand for men who dare to express what their type is. Despite the fact that a lot of men are into bigger girls and openly express this, thin women are still seen as a "threat".
I believe that having and expressing preferences is completely normal as long as that person isn't being directly rude someone else. The body positivity movement, however, feels that men having pre-conceived ideals is hurtful to women. Almost all of us have a person who we would find physically ideal, but that doesn't mean that our attraction is exclusive to that type. While some people are this way, a great majority are not. People can find anything and everything attractive. The body positivity movement would like you to believe that men who seem attracted to anyone other than you is a personal attack. They feel that everyone should be readily attracted to anyone regardless of their personality or appearance. If you turn a big girl down because of her personality you've just earned yourself a spot on the body positivity chopping block. Even if someone isn't attracted to you because of your weight, I feel that they have every right to politely decline your advances. Like I've said before, the body positivity movement sure doesn't seem to care about how men view themselves. But how men view them? It's an every day concern.
13. It Exploits Its Followers Financially
One of the things that bothers me deeply about the movement is the way that it will sometimes treat its followers. I have honest sympathy for them when it comes to matters of exploitation from people who they are supposed to look up to. The abhorrent financial indecency that goes on with this movement is a serious problem. It ranges from the subtle to the absolutely outrageous but this economical dishonesty is a heavy factor in these communities. Not too long ago Tess Holiday, a highly-revered figure in the campaign, was accused of not sending merchandise purchased by her fans and refusing to offer refunds or reciprocations. It was also questioned how much of the money actually went to charity (as promised). At $40 per T-shirt, it was obvious why people were upset with the situation.
This is only one example of the types of issues that the members face. I've seen cheap products sold with overly-inflated price tags simply because it came with the fat-acceptance or body positivity label that so many scramble to. I've seen money supposedly vanish when it was meant to go to a charity. I've seen GoFundMe accounts raise exorbitant amounts of money for petty reasons such as false claims of discrimination, being jobless and overweight (yet capable), depthless overpriced books, pointless travel expenses, tattoo removal, clothes shopping, prom/wedding dresses, cameras, breast implants, breakup support, and poorly-executed product designs that somehow never reach fruition once all of the money is raised. I have seen all of these things done in the name of fat acceptance or body positivity. There are people of greed taking advantage of their peers and spitting on those who suffer and need actual financial assistance, be they plus-size or not. There are people who use their size and label to gain more sympathy (and therefore more money) from others. Petition and crowd-funding websites are already notorious for deception and the members of this popular campaign are of no exception.
Our physical insecurities can lead us down a long road of unhappiness and disappointment. Treating low self-esteem should be approached in the same way that we approach addiction or mental illness. It is not an overnight change and it is not something that can be simply treated from the surface. While these new campaigns show that people are more than willing to pay attention to and support issues involving body image, they have ultimately created an unstable source of relief for people who need real help. We have all of the tools available to create a progressive environment of growth for people of every diversity. To exist happily and healthily in this world we must work from the inside out and not the other way around. All people have the power to feel beautiful. I hope one day we'll have a wide-spread and efficient revolution dedicated to showing them how.
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